Victoria Goldfarb, JD, MS, LMFT
Co-parenting & Counseling
Some Reasons People Come to Me for Psychotherapy
How I Work With Individuals
Research has shown that the most important factor in predicting success in psychotherapy is the quality of the relationship between the therapist and the client. When I enter the room with my client, it is with a healing intent. By being genuine, observing closely, listening attentively, and reflecting the feelings underneath the words, I create a safe environment for my client to express their deepest feelings and thoughts. My client and I work together to “make sense” of how their relational histories and life experiences have organized their sense of themselves and their view of the world. This “making sense together” may result in my client being able to better “hold their own” in all their relationships, tolerate and manage their unpleasant feelings, and become more resilient, less easily injured, and calmer in the face of adversity.
How I Work With Couples
My role as a couple’s therapist is to create a safe environment where I can help my clients acquire the tools they need to clarify what they need and want from each other, including whether to stay together or to separate. I was trained in Imago therapy, the goal of which is to move from an “unconscious” relationship, characterized by “power struggles” to a “conscious” relationship. The tools of Imago Therapy allow couples to have greater empathy and compassion for each other, and to communicate with each other in a way that is respectful and, if the decision is made to stay together, intimacy promoting.
How I Work With Families
I work with families using concepts and techniques from Multi-Generational and Structural Family Therapy. During initial sessions, I ask each family member to describe their view of the issues that have brought them into Family Therapy. In subsequent sessions we might look at relational patterns in previous generations to identify how they might be influencing current relationships. I teach family members communication skills to help them communicate effectively during the sessions, and hopefully at home. Throughout therapy I observe the relational patterns among the family members, share my observations and suggest modifications to behaviors that are creating problems. Finally, I may work with different subsystems of the family, e.g., parents or siblings, to reinforce changes in dynamics that may be necessary to promote healthier functioning in the entire family.